My favourite love songs

I was never good in music in school. It was almost as bad as Kiswahili. I envy kids nowadays who have Art/Craft and music removed from the Primary school Syllabus in Kenya. In spite of this am able to appreciate good music: even though I still don’t understand the intricate details involved in making music .I love listening to love songs. Who doesn’t?

Below I have quoted a few of my favourite and why I can’t seem to get over them, some after many years. Those songs that take you to that good and happy place:-

1.No words to say_Tracy chapman
This reminds me of when love sneaks up on you. you are caught you unawares but you really don’t mind at all. You thrown caution to the wind and just go with it.

...This feeling I have for you Deep in my heart,
safe from the guards of intellect and reason...
Im no longer the master of my emotions...


2.Open Arms – Tracy chapman
I especially love this one for its simplicity. It doesn’t include someone making impossible promises but simply offering you open arms. And sometimes this is all you need. This girl Tracy Chapman knows how to use words.

...If love is what you want baby here iam
If its time that you need...
baby ill stop the clock.


3.You are the one – Tracy Chapman
This is perfect for when you are in love with someone who you know is wrong for you but you don't really care.People have warned you about him/her but who cares.Reminds me of this time after high school when i fell in love with a twenty eight year old guy and all hell broke.

Thats a story for another day(read blog post)

The words that best describes it is sound-proof love . You cant hear what everyone around you is saying

...think you are cute and misunderstood..
Stay as you are don’t change a thing..
I wouldn't change you if I could...
I like it when you play with me.


4.Someday – Franscesca Battistelli
It says the things I always daydream about and want to tell a guy but im too chiken to say. I guess its up there with asking a guy “where is this relationship going?”
It about the simple things you like doing with your man

...Washing cars,
watching stars,
going to the store...


5.Run away – The Corrs
This song had me at the intro. i didn’t even have to listen to the rest of the lyrics to know that I love it. It also happens to be my B.F.F's fave song back in college, he introduced me to soft rock too.

...say its true there's nothing like you and me...
am not alone tell me you feel it too and I would run away...


6. Village girl – Valerie Kimani
So beautiful, the guitar at the beginning gave me goose bumps. Its about a village girl in love with a city boy. It the stuff the scripts of the many soap operas we are subjected to in our local T.V stations every night are made of.


7. Make me better – Fabulous feat Neyo
I have always taken Fabulous to be a good bad boy. This song is sweet but it also maintains the gangsta feel. Telling a lady you love her without sounding mushy. The stutters and the bad grammar is enough to make @greatrnk have a hernia.lol. And the feminist in me especially loved the phrase

...Beside every great man you can find a woman...
( geddit beside not behind)


8. King and Queen - Richie spice feat Alison Hinds
I’ve always loved Richie spice, I only wish he smiled more in his music videos and stop being too damn serious all the time. Like in this song he doesn’t smile at his “wife and child”. It’s a good thing he’s so very talented that people over look this. The music video portrayed the black people in a positive light.No one being shot, no one selling drugs...you catch my drift. What? I didn’t throw it? O.k. i'll stop now.lol


9. He heals me - Indie Arie
I loved the way she talks about being in a relationship where you are accepted just the way you are.This is what i wish for every woman,to feel safe in a relationship and enjoy it completely.

...i have no idea how long he'll be here,
but for the first time in my life am not worried
about the future cause he’s already changed my life…
...

God I love this song.


10.Head over feet – Alanis Morissette
Remember when you fell in love with a guy the first time that you met but didnt respondas you were busy playing hard to get.Then you get tired of playing hard to get and have decided to let him know whats up. The only time I loved the phrase..Friends with benefit was in this song.lol

...you have already won me over in spite of me..
...You are my best friend,best friends with benefits...am aware now...

me and my big mouth

Relax people its not what you think

It all started a few days ago when I made fun of my male friend who always puts photos of cars as his profile picture on facebook. I may have asked him (or rather told him)the reason why he did so is because he thought he was ugly. I didn’t stop there, I went on to nudge him as I laughed at my own joke, which I thought was brilliant lame Unfortunately my male pal did not share the humour in my observation. what was up his up his arse? If anything he was pretty pissed and he didn’t say anything.

After a few weeks , he swung by and calmly told me how my joke was in bad taste...blah blah blah. I cant remember the rest of his speech because I felt so horrible for hurting his feelings.

I always thought men are strong emotionally and are immune to bad jokes told at their expense.Men call each other bad nick names all the time. The men in my family let me get away with stuff so I have never really know just what a potty mouth I have until this dude brought it to my attention. Which brings me to my other point, apparently men hate it when women call them “dude” but its okay to call other that.what! This was brought to my attention by @antwarogue in her blog which was not titled as she went cold turkey on men.

She claims she hates men but we know better.lol

The more we talked the more he reminded me of other incidences where I suffered a severe bout of verbal diarrhea. Here I am going through life thinking am all that and a bag of chips and then some while busy robbing some men off their self esteem. He claimed that in college I asked some guy if he was gay .You see he had shit loads of teddy bears on his bed.

Who does that?

Which confused me further. Men ask each other all the time jokingly if someone is gay if they do something feminine: and the “no homo” disclaimer(whats up with that?) but if I say it they want to rip out my uterus and hit me with it. Just when I think I have understood men they switch it on me [just confuse the enemy(read me)].

This is like the word “nigger” its okay if a person of the black persuasion says it.If other people say it, its racist..come on people you are killing me here.

Any who in the mean time I have decided to put my lips to better use:build up people,blow..blow kisses..yes blow kisses etc and stay away from those words that make my male friends want to chase me down the village with torches and pitchforks like Frankenstein.By the way do they have “loud mouths anonymous?" and if yes who is going to sponsor me? I cannot do it alone.

the gift of time

This blog is dedicated to Cyril Ochieng. No he is not dead, he asked me a question and demanded that I answer in detail. What better way to answer a question that through a blog.

Our Saviour has granted us a lot of gifts and one of the best is time. There are things that you go through in life:some good, some bad but what they both have is common is time. When you are going through a good time its precious and moves way too fast. When you are going through a hard time it can be cruel and painfully slow.

For instance if a loved one dies, no amount of encouragement/ prayers/ counselling can make you feel better only time can do that .As time goes by you get to accept their passing on, heal and get strong enough to go through life without them.

If you break up with a friend and people try to encourage you to dust your self and get back on that horse it doesn’t fix your broken heart, again only with time do you heal and move on.

When you were in your were a teenager and like me you had the horrible acne, weight issues, shy, awkward and high school was torture,no matter how many times your mother told you that it will get better you still felt like chicken poop and wondered whether you will ever fit in. But with time you grew up and most of the things that bothered you then seem so trivial right now.

So to your question Cyril :why do chiqs play hard to get yet you can clearly tell they are in to you. The answer here again is time

Let me explain…

The same words that good guys use is the very same words that bad guys use.

i dont know if its because the vocabulary for love and the endearment words are limited or..

So sometimes its hard to tell them apart, but time shows you the difference. The good guys are always patient, never in a hurry to “seal the deal”.
The bad guys on the other hand will only put up with you for sometime because they want to move on to the next .

After all there are so many girls and so little time..


I did some training on Fraud in Banking and one of the things they told us was that fraudsters are always in a hurry. They are in a rush to be served and can even cut the line in the banking hall. They also go into far too much details because they planned their story before hand whereas honest people dont do any forward planning about what to say.We were told to be wary of such people and i also find this advice to be true for relationships too.

So Cyril the girl wants to make sure that you are serious and not looking for fun and pass time.

On the other hand there is this new breed of bad boys who are meticulous, patient and know how to reel you in and are willing to wait for you.They can take weeks,days,months and yes even years to get you where they want

Its sort of a long con and for that kind of guy only Jesus can save you from him…sorry cant help you there as I am currently recovering from bad-boy addiction, but TIME will teach me and I will get back to you with the answers for the long con badboy(again i made that word up,coz you see i had alot of time on my hands)lol o.k. ill stop now.