the gift of time

This blog is dedicated to Cyril Ochieng. No he is not dead, he asked me a question and demanded that I answer in detail. What better way to answer a question that through a blog.

Our Saviour has granted us a lot of gifts and one of the best is time. There are things that you go through in life:some good, some bad but what they both have is common is time. When you are going through a good time its precious and moves way too fast. When you are going through a hard time it can be cruel and painfully slow.

For instance if a loved one dies, no amount of encouragement/ prayers/ counselling can make you feel better only time can do that .As time goes by you get to accept their passing on, heal and get strong enough to go through life without them.

If you break up with a friend and people try to encourage you to dust your self and get back on that horse it doesn’t fix your broken heart, again only with time do you heal and move on.

When you were in your were a teenager and like me you had the horrible acne, weight issues, shy, awkward and high school was torture,no matter how many times your mother told you that it will get better you still felt like chicken poop and wondered whether you will ever fit in. But with time you grew up and most of the things that bothered you then seem so trivial right now.

So to your question Cyril :why do chiqs play hard to get yet you can clearly tell they are in to you. The answer here again is time

Let me explain…

The same words that good guys use is the very same words that bad guys use.

i dont know if its because the vocabulary for love and the endearment words are limited or..

So sometimes its hard to tell them apart, but time shows you the difference. The good guys are always patient, never in a hurry to “seal the deal”.
The bad guys on the other hand will only put up with you for sometime because they want to move on to the next .

After all there are so many girls and so little time..


I did some training on Fraud in Banking and one of the things they told us was that fraudsters are always in a hurry. They are in a rush to be served and can even cut the line in the banking hall. They also go into far too much details because they planned their story before hand whereas honest people dont do any forward planning about what to say.We were told to be wary of such people and i also find this advice to be true for relationships too.

So Cyril the girl wants to make sure that you are serious and not looking for fun and pass time.

On the other hand there is this new breed of bad boys who are meticulous, patient and know how to reel you in and are willing to wait for you.They can take weeks,days,months and yes even years to get you where they want

Its sort of a long con and for that kind of guy only Jesus can save you from him…sorry cant help you there as I am currently recovering from bad-boy addiction, but TIME will teach me and I will get back to you with the answers for the long con badboy(again i made that word up,coz you see i had alot of time on my hands)lol o.k. ill stop now.