Books on relationships

There is nothing more annoying than meeting a lady who has gone through enough men to make up not one, but two rugby team but still hasn't learnt a thing about men. I think if you are a lady above 24 or cleared college you should have figured out men enough to be able to weed out the douche bags and save your little heart some pain. If you are past your mid twenties and you still have men playing with your heart then please slap yourself so that I don't have to.

It's even more tragic when a lady is a single mother and has shite taste in men. She has had men lying and laying on her and now she got them lying to your kids too. It drives me bats to see kids paying for their besotted mothers' mistakes. Like in that movie- whose names escape me now- where a character said that its sad how we need a license to drive, fish but not to be parents. Mothers literally get away with murder sometimes. And am not talking about the physically death. Its when the kids grow up the cycle of dysfunctional relationships begins all over again.

Now in the spirit of beginning a new year on a clean slate by beginning to change our lives for better I have put up a few books to give women a few pointers on how to invest in healthy relationships. I'll admit like ayla have never cared much for self-help books because I do not like to be told what to do... you know... seeing as there is my way and the wrong way. But these books really are eye opening. I have read the first two and glazed over the last two. They share quite a number of themes, most of which should be common sense but it doesn't hurt to be reminded once in a while.

(NB- Please read the books with a grain of salt and use your wisdom to take only that which will help you. The authors are from a different geographical zone from us Kenyans, different cultures, beliefs etc. Some of the advice may go against what some of you believe. e.g sex before marriage, how to dress attractively(sexy means different things to different people. etc)

 I read this book this week and it left me in stitches. The author is really funny and doesn't come off as being too preachy. I promise you wont be disappointed. Even if you think you do not need relationship advice just read it for entertainment.

I read this book back in college and it saved me a lot of drama. It gives advice and examples of mistakes that women make and questions that females ask. It is also entertaining to boot!

 This book shows people how men and women are wired differently with different emotional needs. It teaches the different sexes how to relate to one another and have healthy relationships.

Hope you have watched the movie with the same title- if only to stare at the lovely Michael Ealy.lol

These men are too fine!

I swear this men came perfect straight from the Lord's factory floor. It should be illegal to be this handsome...
oh! if only polyandry were legal! I would take them all to my mama.lol

Denzel Washington
I've watched all his movies from John Q, training Day, Unstoppable, The book of Eli, Preacher's wife, De Javu to Safe House... and I still think he rocks after all these years!



Idris Elba
First saw him in the Tv series Luther, then later in Obsession, Takers, Daddy's little girls (I can remember that scene where they were playing Sam Cooke's song Change is gonna come- I cried buckets) Thor,  Ghost Rider

Mehcad Brooks
I first saw him in Desperate housewives, then Trueblood, Alcatraz, Necessary Roughness etc It's all in his voice people, he gives me goose bumps y'all!

Mehcad Brooks

Aldis Hodge
I first saw him in the Tv series Leverage, then Friday night Lights and guest appearances in CSI and Castle series and loved him even more. Isn't he just so fine....
 

Aldis Hodge

Blair Underwood
I first saw him in Set it off and he set my heart on fire. Then there are others like Madea's family reunion, Dirty Sexy Money, City of Angels, sex and the city, The event.etc Also in that music video- whose name escapes me now- by joe Thomas. Like fine wine he gets better with time...

 
Hounsou Djimon
The movie that I can think of is Blood Diamonds, Amistad, ER, Soul Food, Beauty Shop, Alias.etc
This boy is fiiinnnneee!

Rockmond Dunbar
You saw him in Prison break, Terriers, Soul food, Girlfriends, CSI:Miami and boy did he kick ass!!!

D.B. Woodside
Single Ladies, CSI, Castle, Lie to me, Hawthorne, 24, greys Anatomy, Lie to me among others. It doesn't hurt that he is easy on the eye too *wink*

Andre3000
He inspired this blog. Need I say more?

Laz Alonso
I saw him in Breakout kings and I fell in like. Then there was also Fast Furious, Jumping the broom, Just Wright, Avatar, Without a trace etc He has the most beautiful hands I have ever seen. He can lay hands on me anytime *am not talking about prayers here*

Taye Diggs 
Did you watch Kevin Hill and  Day break?, Did you watch Brown Sugar, How Stella got her groove back, Best man, Chicago? Then you know why I think he rocks!

Adewale Akinnuoye
Remember the Tv series Lost, Lip service and Oz, and the movies Unstoppable and Thor. Well Adewale definitely gave a memorable performance. Isn't he fine too?

and you all know how i feel about men in suits.lol!

Anthony Mackie
I saw him in The Adjustment Bureau, Abraham Lincoln: Vampire Hunter, Man on a ledge and I fell in like. That ka gap kwa meno...wolololo...

LL cool J
I could tell you why i like him so much, but I'd rather show you...

 
Mahershala Ali
He has a very long name which is derived from the bible but mostly he goes by Mahershala Ali. I saw him in the Tv series 4400 acting like a doting father and me likey very much! Also Alcatraz, Lie to me, Law and Order, Crossing Jordan and featured in one of the episodes in CSI too,

Nelly
I never cared much for packs..that is until I met rapper Nelly. Even after all these years he has not let himself go. Just feast your eyes on this eye candy

Orlando Jones
I first saw him in the movie Double Take and he done warmed the cockles of my heart. It's been long since I last saw his works.

Boris Kodjoe
If you do not love this guy please kill yourself coz this dude rocks! Plus he is fine to boot! Remember the tv series Soul Food, Undercovers, The confidant, Surrogates

Shemar Moore
Remember Diary of a mad black woman. The Tv series Criminal Minds?

James Lesure
Remember For Your Love and Men at Work?

Hill Harper
He rocked in CSI; New York, For Colored Girls,

Common
I love the way he raps, acts (the movie- Just Wright) and looks especially how he shaves all his hair. He is one of the best dressed rappers I know. A little birdie told me he has written a book with his mama aawww!!!!. Yes, I love everything about this fine man. see...

Michael Ealy
Remember For Colored Girls, Common Law, The Good Wife, Takers, Think like a man. But it was when he featured in the music video Halo by Beyonce that made me love him more. I dunno if it was the lighting or what but his blue eyes were so beautiful I almost cried. And I swear I saw his halo when I blinked.lol. But I have to admit the TV series Sleeper Cell kind of scared me because of the running theme in the whole series. As usual Michael did it justice.

Boy can this man wear a suit!

I so love Andrea3000- you don't understand

It's been a year since I started blogging and people still ask me how I came up with the blog name. I already said it here some time in the past but I guess there is no harm in repeating it again. I kinda stole it from one of my favourite rappee's name-  Andrea 3000. I have loved Andrea 3000 since forever.

The first time I 'met" him was when I was watching the group outkast perform "Hey Yah" and I knew he was the shit. I know this is an unusual thing to say but I used to envy his luxurious soft hair. He inspired me to finally go and get a perm so that my hair could flow like that.

I loved him even more when he sang "Ms Jackson" to apologize to Erykah Badu's mum when their relationship didn't work. If you listen to the song you can hear him dedicate it to baby's mamas' mama. Although Erykah's mum is called Kolleeen Wright, it was dedicated to her. They have a child with Erykah called Seven Soirious (don't ask). How many men do you know who will apologize to a lady's mama when they do something wrong? Yes, very few.

Anyways the song above is one of my favourite break up song featuring Andrea3000. For radio they use the word love instead of pu**y. So do not worry, you can actually request it without blushing.lol.

Book review: Ladder of years by Anne tyler

In this book, we meet the character Delia who is a 40 year old woman married to a doctor called Sam Grinstead with three kids Sam 21, Ramsay 19 and carroll 15. After many years of marriage she begins to feel expendable; like an extra in her husband and children's lives. She misses the days when her children were young, before they turned hard-shelled. Her boys -in her own words- have grown whiskers and her daughter has bought a diary with a unpickable brass lock. She feels left out and unwanted.

One day during a family vacation by the seaside Delia walks away from it all wearing nothing but her bathing suit and a tote bag with 500 dollars inside. She runs away from her life to begin a new one. Her family thinks she has vanished without a trace and starts to look for her and eventually report to the police and the search continues.

What annoys Delia even more is when they put out an Ad asking for her whereabouts and they do not even know the colour of her eyes or what she is wearing which serves to make her decision to leave justified in her eyes. Now you will have to get the book to know how the story unfolds. I promise you won't be disappointed.

ps. In the final pages of the book there is a record of an interview of the author which will give you an insight into what was going through Anne Tyler's head when she wrote this book. great book this one!