Kamman boys, the friendzone is not so bad

I had to borrow this photo.LMAO!

Ok I apologize for making fun of friendzoned people but kamman boys, the friend zone doesn’t have to be such a bad thing now. For those who can handle such relationships believe it or not there are perks you can enjoy. Besides the lady might just be trying to put you through “purgatory” before she lets you have her heart and all. 

Maybe if you play your cards right you might just win her heart after all- but don’t hold your breath though.

So if you decide to settle in your friend-zone and enjoy it, here are the benefits for you my dear friend:

1. She can help you meet the girl of your dreams

Girls like moving in groups and have a nice circle of girl friends. If she don’t want you there might be another girl in her crew who might be ready to get some loving from you. Women trust men who are introduced to them by other women more. They assume the fact that he is her friend then he might be nice so they will be more receptive to listening to your lines. You won’t have to work as hard as  you would have if you met the lady alone. The lady she introduces you to is most likely a nice one seeing as she is your friend, there is no way she would deliberately deceive you. Ain’t nothing like a beautiful “wing-man”!

(But be careful, coz it is a tricky situation. if every thing goes wrong you might lose you gal pal too, coz women are loyal to their girl friends like that)

2. When you need a date to couples events

If you are invited to a couples only meeting and you need a lady ASAP, your lady friend will be most likely be happy to accompany you. The good thing is that if the event ends up being boring, you will still get to have loads of fun with your new bff. You are also able to get admission into to couples only activities that can be for fun things like applying for the Amazin Race, Fear Factor etc.

3. Home cooked meals

If you’re tired of the take away food you can get some great stodgy home cooked meals from your gal pal once in a while. Women always cook for their friends so you can take advantage of this. Plus the fact that she knows that you like her, she kinda feels guilty for making you suffer so she over compensates by being over nice hopping to assuage your feelings of rejection. You can maximize on the guilt she feels by getting these little things.

But don’t stretch it, you might be shown the door!

4. Get inside information

You can ask for advice especially when you are having problems with a new love interest. They are able to be honest with you in a way that your friends of the same sex can’t be. They are able to shoot from the hip because they have no ulterior motives but your best interest at heart. If they hit it off and they are friends, your gal pal will shed light on some stuff happening with your girlfriend sometimes without even knowing it. They can also give advice to help you win the affections of the woman you are pursuing or solve dating dilemmas. Getting a woman’s opinion on some things can also go along way in helping you avoid make some dumb mistakes. There are also some things which are too awkward to ask your male friends.  A very good example it when you want to buy a shirt and you are not really sure it’s appropriate for the occasion you are buying it for; your gal pal will choose for you.

5. Understand women a little more

You also get an insight into the complicated workings of a woman. It wouldn’t hurt to understand the women’s side of things. They help you decipher some things which may not be obvious to you or you find confusing in women. It’s not what she says but how she carries her self, her idiosyncrasies and quirks. There are those things about women you will be able to pick up by hanging out with a lady. You will also develop skills that will help you in your next relationship. For example being a good listener and tolerance for chewing the fat and little gossip.

6. Share expenses

True gal pal will be able to bail you out when you are in financial trouble; especially when you do not want to trouble your boys or family with your fiscal issues. You know that they won’t pressure you to pay it back assuming, she also borrows stuff from you. You can split drinks and food etc when you go out and save on money. If you are in the same building, you can share utilities and when they have guest over they can borrow stuff from you and vice versa! The lady also feels safe knowing there is a man she can trust living in the same building in case something happens.

7. Good filter

They can be a great filter in that you can intro your new boo to them first before she meets the rest of the family. You know a way of seeing your new love out of her element and how she relates to other people. Your friend will also be able to give it to you straight if your new friend is great or suspect. There are things or behaviours that women can pick up that men are oblivious about when they are head over heels. Your gal pal will be able to see how your girlfriend is treating you before giving her blessing. It will save you the embarrassment of introducing a crazy girl to your mama.

8. Get comfort/companionship

Women are fiercely loyal, and when they are your friends they will take good care of you. The lady can help provide comfort when you are feeling down and lonely freely as they know they do not have to give anything in return. They can also be great confidants as they are more sympathetic. You will feel free to emote as she wont judge you seeing as she has no romantic interest in you. It’s nice knowing you have some feminine company where there are no pressures or expectations whatsoever. This companionship can be also fulfilling and fun for the both of you. There are movies, shopping, cooking, road trips to enjoy with your gal pal talking about sundry stuff.

You will get intimacy without being intimate... you know what I mean? No? Ok moving on...

Although men find it hard to separate friendship from romance, (as they don’t really care to know what puts a woman together-all they know is that they want and need her) it wouldn’t hurt to try and cultivate healthy relationships with the opposite sex and enjoy the aforementioned benefits. It is very healthy to have at least one friend of the opposite sex especially for those who are single. If you are married, that boat already sailed, your wife should be your bff!

Now wipe that frown off your face and try to enjoy the friend zone area nicca, the sky has not fallen... YET!

Ps if you insist on pursuing a romantic relationship, know that there is no going back. You can’t take it back. You might lose the friendship too. It’s very dicey ergo the reason why you should tread carefully.

 Wish you luck!