Where was I…Yes...sex…you can talk about the weather, politics, art and some people wont know what to say but talk about sex and suddenly every one has an opinion even those who are not having any. So you could say that sex makes for an interesting topic. The thing about sex is that it’s very powerful it can be used to manipulate, control and also for good for those who genuinely love each other (I guess)
Trouble comes when the two people (three people etc, etc) involved are not on the same page as to why they are doing it. One person is having fun akijiokolea while the other one is thinking white dress down the aisle, barefoot and pregnant t on the patio. After the “dust settles” you have broken hearts and shattered dreams all b because somebody entered into the union without declaring their expectations.
Sadly the people who always get hurt are women because they never read the signs or take hints that men throw at them. This is also where the issue of rape also comes in. When your body language is telling the man you want the “joystick” but in reality you’re just hanging out with the dude with no intention of giving up the goods. You get they guy all confused because in his mind he is thinking: she came to my house on her own volition, so I guess I could kiss her, and surprise , surprise some ladies even agree to remove all their wardrobe with still no intention of giving up the goods and hence what happens sometimes? You get raped. I’m not justifying rape or condone it and I wouldn’t wish it even on my worse enemy but I’m just saying if you have no intention of having sex don’t put your self in such positions.
There’s the time when the lady negotiates at the wrong time. Like this dude was telling me that some girl waited until they were naked to ask him “do you love me”. Seriously ladies when you are sprawled there like a star fish naked and ask a guy if he loves you...What’s not to love about a naked woman? So when you later break up and you are in the man-bashing fest with your girl friends you begin saying how this guy lied to you and yet it was your fault in negotiating when it’s too late.
Then there when the lady thinks the man should take responsibility of contraception. Ideally It would be good if all men did but sadly they aren’t the ones who are at high risk of un wanted pregnancy or catching the STD’s etc. Like this lady for instance was telling me how her boyfriend is freaking lazy and always forgets to carry his condoms.” It’s like he’s trying to get me pregnant” was what was going through her mind. So I asked her why don’t you buy and carry your own condoms. Boy you should have seen the look she gave me; you would think I was asking her to kill somebody. I can’t do that! What would they people at the counter think of me? She found it disgusting and yet she was having unprotected sex, go figure. So I came up with an idea, ill go get her the condoms and save her a lot of heart ache. Again she gave me the look. Apparently she can’t carry a pack of condoms too. I gave up...
This one lady made me bust out laughing when she told me that she is afraid to be seen by her boyfriend enjoying sex. According to her it will make her boyfriend think she is loose or has been around. I know its weird, but you must admit it’s pretty funny. Imagine trying to have a serious/straight-faced cumface, hilarious! Makes me wonder what’s the whole point of having sex in the first place if you don’t intend to give and TAKE also. I’m telling you chics we can get quite complicated!
Any who with that said I think that sex is an important part of a relationship and would like to urge the ladies have it at the right time, with the right person, for the right reasons and try to avoid getting it twisted. I always say know what your getting yourself into don’t be afraid to ask the genious “where is this relationship going?” (I know my male pals are going to kill me for this.lol) so that I can enjoy bonding with my female pals without having to suffer the lamentation of a lady scorned, It really is getting old yawa
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